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How to Move Beyond Being Overwhelmed by Breaking Up
By Justin Case
Our society teaches us breaking up is OK and is to be expected. Almost everything about our society is geared toward being a throwaway society. Everything is made cheaper and faster and … Use it until it breaks or you don’t like it anymore, then throw it away. Get another one, a newer one, a better one. Why not throw boyfriends, girlfriends, relationships, and/or marriages away? What difference does it make, until you are the one that just got pitched? Are you feeling overwhelmed because of your break up? I know I was and not in a good sense either. Do you feel rage and guilt and sorrow and maybe some hate and maybe most of all, fear? It is only natural to feel these things and more. All of these things cause you feel overwhelmed at the loss of a love. Overwhelmed at the loss of a companion. And then all of these feelings spring to the surface leaving us devastated and overwhelmed. Sick to the stomach like a horse just kicked you in the guts. It takes your breath away, leaving you empty and all you want to do, is die. Now is the time to breathe. Big deep breaths. Breathing takes oxygen to the brain. Breathing helps you to relax and support yourself in focusing your attention on this moment. When you are focused on this moment you will be not be overwhelmed. The reason you become overwhelmed is because you become entrenched in thoughts about everything other than the present moment. Taking time to breathe and clear your mind may even allow room for inspiration. Inspiration is something definitely need right now. Stop what you are doing whatever you are doing. Take a breather from these feelings, after you have felt them. Just let them be for now. Give yourself a chance to assess the situation and think what may have gone wrong. It is more than likely they told you what needed fixing before they left. You need to make a plan of action now. You need to know what you are going to do so you do not deviate when emotions rise to the surface like cream on milk. Set your goals, your intentions for the future. The future when your ex calls you. Know what your are going to say before hand or you will blow your second chance to makeup. This process will speed up the process of your stated purpose. With the stating of your purpose, visualize what you want. See it clearly in your minds eye they way you would like things to be when that phone call arrives or when you have that chance meeting. Remember, being overwhelmed is caused from a sense of “not knowing” and not being in the present moment. By clarifying your purpose and moving forward with a vision of the outcome you will act with greater confidence being able to increase your chances of success significantly.
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Contributor's Note
I wrote this while suffering unimaginably from the breaking up with my wife, who ran away with my 3 year old daughter.
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